Hawaiian Styled Ceremony
An Hawaiian Styled Ceremony is a great way to celebrate your wedding. Many people include the lei exchange as part of the ceremony, as well as the sand blending. Whether you are from the islands or just adore them, it is a wonderful way to enjoy your nuptials.
Why is it called an Hawaiian Styled, and not a Hawaiian Ceremony? There is a really simple answer; because, most of the time, we are not in Hawaii! All the fun without the volcanoes.
Hawaiian Styled Wedding
Aloha! We are gathered here today to celebrate one of life’s greatest moments, The Joining of two hearts. In this ceremony today we will witness the joining Spouse1 and Spouse2 in marriage.
(Optional) If there is anyone present who has just cause why this couple should not be united let them speak now or forever hold their peace.
(Optional) Who gives this woman to this man (Father of says I Do)
Please be Seated
The Hawaiian word for love is Aloha. Today we’ve come together to celebrate the special Aloha that exists between Spouse1 and Spouse2 and their desire to make their Aloha eternal through the commitment marriage.
Spouse1 and Spouse2 you are entering into marriage because you want to be together. You are marrying because you know you will grow more in happiness and more fully as life-mates. You will belong to each other, one in mind, one in heart, and in all things. No greater blessing of happiness can come to you than to have this devoted Aloha, which you now publicly affirm. Keep this understanding of your marriage alive in the days ahead. May your Aloha continuously grow truer and more wonderful with each day you enjoy together.
A reading by Wilferd Arlan Peterson
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens,
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the “little” things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say, “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
VOWS (face each other and repeat after me)
I, Spouse1 take you Spouse2 to be my wife/husband, my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.
I will trust you and honor you,
I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will love you faithfully.
Through the best and the worst,
Through the difficult and the easy.
Whatever may come I will always be there.
As I have given you my hand to hold,
So I give you my heart to keep.
Hand Lei Ceremony
(Couple faces each other and holds hands. Members of the wedding party holding the leis come forward and place them across their arms.)
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and vibrant with love, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as they promises to love you all the days of their life.
These are the hands that will work along side yours, as together you build your future, as you laugh and cry, as you share your innermost secrets and dreams.
These are the hands that will work long hours for you and your new family.
These are that hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes: tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them through illness and hurt, supporting and encouraging them along the way, and knowing when it is time to let go.
These are the hands that will massage tension from you neck and back in the evenings after you’ve both had a long hard day.
These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times
These are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick, or console you when you are grieving.
May they always be held by one another. Give them the strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the dark of disillusionment. Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their wondrous love.
Help these hands to continue building a relationship rich in caring, and devoted in reaching for your perfection. May Groom and Bride see their four hands as healer, protector, shelter and guide.
At this time I would like to have you present to each other these leis.
In Hawaii we exchange leis as a symbol of love. The beautifully crafted lei with its hand picked flowers and twine, carefully bonded together with love, is a reflection of your love and Aloha for one another. As you exchange these leis you will begin to weave your lei in life together with love. And now, with loving aloha (island style) please present your leis to one another with a smile and a kiss upon each other’s cheek (kissing on the lips comes After the pronouncement!) and an Aloha.
Spouse1, do you take Spouse2 to be your Husband/Wife? (“I do”)
Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect him/her, forsaking all others and holding only unto him/her forevermore? (“I do”)
(Repeat with the other Spouse)
Ring Exchange (repeat after me)
The ring is a symbol of the unbroken circle of love. Love freely given has no beginning and no end, no giver and no receiver for each is the giver and each is the receiver. May these rings always remind you of the vows you have taken.
I Spouse1, take thee, Spouse2 to be my Wife/Husband, To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, in joy and sorrow, and I promise My love to you. And with this ring, I take you as my Wife, for as long as we both shall live.
I Spouse2, take thee Spouse1 , to be my Husband/Wife, To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, in joy and sorrow, and I promise My love to you. And with this ring, I take you as my husband, for as long as we both shall live.
(Couples sometimes substitute the Family Sand Ceremony when they have children/grandchildren.)
Spouse1 and Spouse2 you have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of rings and this is a pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives.
Today, this relationship is also symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand. One, representing you, Spouse1 and One Representing you Spouse2 and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be.
Please Blend the Sand
As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one.
Just as these grains of sand can never be separated, our prayer for you today is that your lives together would be blended like the seven seas and may your love swirl around each other like the changing tides.
To make your relationship work will take love. This is the core of your marriage and why you are here today.
It will take trust, to know, that in your hearts, you truly want what is best for each other.
It will take dedication, to stay open to one another – and to learn and grow together.
It will take faith, to go forward together, without knowing exactly what the future brings.
And it will take commitment, to hold true to the journey you both have pledged to today.
Pronouncement of Couple
Today you have exchanged vows, leis, I dos, rings, blended the sand and have pledged your Aloha to each other. So, By the power vested in me I now pronounce you Husband and Wife (Or Brides/Husbands for life) and Spouses for Life.
You may kiss your Bride/Groom.
I would like to introduce Spouse1 and Spouse2!